Vanessacliff - Sex with new anonymous people is exciting and it s also possible to feel chemistry and a spark with someone early But I find that intellectual and emotional connection with someone especially through trust deepened over time takes sex to another level What do you think Personal life story time if you re into that sort of thing I ve been super busy with the computer work side of building the business - editing 149 videos preview clips etc creating marketing materials working on website development production company infrastructure planning the calendar for next year etc I ve also been in a more contemplative month reading a lot journaling meditating spending time with my kiddo staying home being frugal I ve still been fucking a lot with a variety of people of course I m still me I just haven t had an interest in spending money and time on going out right now The people in my personal life who I ve felt closest to lately are the people who have gotten that and jumped in - who have spent time making home cooked meals with me taking my kiddo to free community events helping me with business tasks On Monday I went with my kiddo a partner and his kiddo to an activity my kiddo really enjoyed It made me feel supported and closer to him and as a direct result we had the hottest sex we ve had IMHO during his lunch break on Thursday I told another partner about this hurray poly compersion and he reflected that while I identify as pansexual meaning I m attracted to people of all genders he thinks of me as also being sapiosexual meaning I m more sexually aroused by emotional or intellectual connection with someone else I don t normally associate myself with the term sapiosexual because I ve heard some people use it to say they re only into fucking people if they have that connection and of course you know that s not true hahaha But it is definitely the case that feeling understood and supported by someone in my platonic life makes me more sexually open to and hungry for them later It was interesting that my partner referred to this as a sexual identity though I ve always kind of assumed that was true for most everyone that that s part of how sexuality works When you re feeling trust and connection with someone when you re feeling loved and supported by them in other aspects of your life you have more intimate and meaningful sex What do you think Feel free to DM me about it I d love to hear your personal perspective on the matter Read more
